If there were a moment in your life that would in fact change you, what you believe about a specific subject, and the outcome of certain events in your life… would you recognize it? I talked to an old friend I hadn’t talked to in about a year. Its interesting because about two years ago she was like a little sister to me and now She is a stranger. I was remembering that we had a talk in the park where we weighed out the pro’s and cons of her moving to Arizona to be part of a discipleship group and how she was surprised to hear that I thought she should go even though I have ideological and philosophical differences with the group. A couple of weeks later she packed up and moved to AZ, and our friendship would fall apart after that.
Over the past year or so I realize that I have changed. I don’t mope around when thinking of friendships anymore. I no longer demand perfection from my friends. I don’t expect much from friends at all besides a few good laughs and some good times. I still believe that I should always be there for my friends if they need it but I don’t expect anybody to be there for me, not anymore.
So I realize that these experiences that I have had along with applying the scientific method to my situation have caused me to understand friendship and grow.
And so I now sit here, on the other side of the question, not only knowing, but experiencing the answer. I realize that any given friendship can either last for a very long time or fall apart within a short period of time; I have no control over that. Nonetheless I am to remain the same person and treat them all as friends. I realize that the most trivial of conversations can echo in eternity and while I have no control over which conversation will do so, I can control what I say and handle every situation with this thought in mind.
About Me
- J
- I love writing. If you want to know anything else just ask me or else read up! I have two blogs ("A Pen Itching To Bleed Onto Paper" and "The Rebirth of J"). One of my blogs (A Pen...) is updated more frequently than the other. "The Rebirth” is more of a story I am writing with my life whereas "A Pen" would be my random thoughts past, present, and future in this unfolding journey I call life. If this is your first time reading my blog, please visit Post #2 for the month of April 2008 in my "A Pen" blog archives... Thanks!
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It is so hard transitioning to adulthood. During my years in high school I had friends all over the place. Then I moved to college and of course new friends were made. Now that I have graduated - some of my old friends have become my friends again. Some have not. I had friends who were single,friends who were married,friends who were couples. Now that I am in a serious relationship the friendship with those married people doesn't work becaue they are married,working,and with kids so there is no time. The single people don't want to be around me because they get annoyed when I say things like I have to get back home because my novio awaits me. So it seems that lately the only people who care much to hang with me are those in my situation - a serious relationship. Shallow I know but that is what it has become. How all that has changed me as a person I don't know.
As for the rest, I think we can make life altering decisions and know they are life altering but I also think sometimes we can make those decisions and not realize what a huge impact they may have on everything.
Hang in there! You will find your niche in the world yet.
This topic is really interesting to me.. in the past few months I've reconnected with several friends I hadn't spoken to in years. And I came to similar conclusions. Those fleeting moments, the quick conversations can have more of an impact on someone's life than we think. People do change, but that's ok. Friendship can survive it :)
Totally dig your taste in music, by the way.
Chica -- your blog doesn't work, i can't leave you comments! anyway, thanks for your comments!
J,
I have a new blog if you go to my profile.
It is:
www.mymarypoppinspurse.blogspot.com
I am trying to go a new direction or something to that aspect.
it's difficult to only be the good friend- but it's probably the best thing to do. and hopefully some will be a good friend to you as well :)
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